The one aspect of life you can count on is change. People are not fond of change, but it happens to us all the time. Most people (if they’re lucky) will get older. Many will have children.
The children will grow up and go to college and then branch off on their own. Parents get older to the point where their children may have to take care of them. This goes on and on.
The following tips are helpful ways to deal with life transitions.
I also include 2 actionable steps you can take right away and a short list of suggested readings for people who are looking for additional information.
1. Accepting Change
Of course, some changes are going to be easier than others, while many changes are difficult or just plain beyond our control, and there’s no way around that.
Therefore, it’s best to accept them and get on with your life. That’s not easy by any stretch of the imagination. But, once you learn to do this, you will find it much easier when those types of changes occur.
2. Don’t Live with Regrets
We are unable to change our past, at least not yet. Until someone discovers a way to do that, don’t worry about what you can’t change in your past. It’s a huge waste of time and energy.
Instead, it may help you feel better if you make amends where possible, or do that one thing you feel you missed out on doing. Besides, if you let regrets rule your life, you risk missing out on the life you still have in front of you.
3. You Are Not Alone
Regardless of your stage of life, there are plenty of people who have already experienced it or are doing so right alongside you.
Seek out these people and learn from them. Don’t forget to pass on to others what you already know. You’ll meet new friends in the process, and you’ll discover that the world is not as lonely as you thought.
4. Have Some Alone Time
You shouldn’t go it alone. But, you should take some alone time for yourself. Think quiet contemplation. This is a time that you spend to help clear your head of the cobwebs.
Go for a walk, go to the park and feed the pigeons, or go to the gym. Whatever you want to do, it is for you to decide.
5. Enjoy Life No Matter What
Everybody deals with tragedy and disappointment at some point in their lives. You will grieve the loss of loved ones, and you may even have adverse situations that you’ll have to deal with.
As much as possible, keep your chin up and try to enjoy your life no matter what type of situation you find yourself in. You only get one life, you want to live that to its fullest.
6. Understand Your Purpose
You were put on this earth for a reason. You do things differently than everyone else. Even though you think you do something similar to others, you have a unique angle or spin that only you can bring to that thing.
Try to determine what it is you are meant to do and do it. If you are stuck on something that doesn’t fit for you, your life is going to be miserable or unsatisfying at the very least.
7. Get Help When Overwhelmed
There are going to be situations where it feels unbearably tough to deal with. If you ever get to this point, seek out help.
You can start by asking advice of your family or friends. But for more serious situations, consider seeking professional help.
Get Your Financial Affairs in Order
Financial burdens are with us throughout our lives. These get more difficult as we take on more responsibilities and as we age. Older people use medical services more than younger people, on average. You need to make sure you have what you need whatever your stage in life. It’s a good idea to seek out professional help from an advisor for this.
Update Your Will
It’s amazing how many people don’t do this and when they finally leave this wonderful planet, those left behind have to pick up the pieces. Make sure you specify how your assets are going to be divided when you are gone. It’s going to happen, hopefully, later rather than sooner. But, happen it will.
1. Transitions: Making Sense Of Life's Changes
By William Bridges
2. Tough Transitions: Navigating Your Way Through Difficult Times
By Elizabeth Harper Neeld
3. The Anatomy of Change: A Way to Move Through Life's Transitions
By Richard Strozzi-Heckler
I hope these tips help you deal with the transitions you will face in your life. I know that some transitions are pleasant and others are not. But, I also believe that it is well within our ability to influence the changes they bring to our lives.
In that same vein of dealing with transition/change, I have created an e-guide called Embrace Change See a New You. Some of the topics include The top 10 fears that prevent us from change; Reasons people want to change; and The butterfly effect of change. It can be found HERE on my shop page.
Let me know if you have any thoughts or tips of your own on this subject. I'd love to hear them.